Archive for May, 2005

The weekend went well. Sunday with g00fy_blonde‘s family went very smoothly. Apparently, his mom requested that there be no baby/pregnancy talk during the visit. I think everyone had a good time.

We watched a bunch of movies over the weekend. By far, my favorite was Finding Neverland. I was surprisingly disappointed in Phantom of the Opera. Maybe it was all the hype I’ve heard regarding both the show and the movie, but I just didn’t care for it. Or maybe I wasn’t in the right mood for all the singing.

My grandmother came over on Sunday and we worked on two little craft projects together. They were primarily photo layouts and she was very excited when they were done. She’s gotten to an age where I don’t really want to buy her anything for her birthday. There’s really nothing that she needs and gift certificates for dinner just accumulate in a bowl until she winds up giving them away to someone else. Therefore, I usually take her out to dinner (the last 3 years she’s picked Perkins) and do something where we spend some time together. It’s amazing how appreciative she is of that. It helps that I’m interested in family history, so she can tell me all sorts of stories and the time passes fairly quickly.

I only had one reading on Saturday. That seems to be the norm these days. I know it will eventually pick up, but it’s sometimes discouraging. Most of the problem is my fault because I don’t want to advertise. Hey, I live in a small town and I don’t want too much attention on this particular issue. But I will probably teach a class through Community Ed and that should help business.

The History Committee is becoming the bane of my existence. I’m getting tons of revisions and emails regarding hurt feelings for various reasons. I can’t believe that we’ve gotten to this level. The Monster (very rough draft) needs a lot of TLC and the committee just can’t seem to make any decisions as to what to keep, where to eliminate the duplications, what information is accurate, and what ultimately must be cut. I realize that these are tough decisions and that there is a lot of pride and hard work involved here, but right now we have a product that would be a complete embarrassment if published. People need to suck it up and make these decisions. I can edit it, but the little editing I’ve done has already fallen under criticism (please leave in the list of 400 members and staff from the 50 year book–we want all that intact).

Oops it’s off to a staff meeting. Yay!

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Past Due

I’ve been meaning to update for quite awhile, but I haven’t made the time. I’ve been busy with book clubs and a convention and lots of other little things. However, I am updating today because I need to vent a little. One of the nice things about my 50 minute commute is that I have time to really think about things and figure out why I respond to situations the way I do.

Yesterday afternoon, g00fy_blonde told me that he is about to be an uncle. His older brother J had been dating D for over a year, I think. This is a planned pregnancy–even though there were no intentions to marry (although that may change if the family has any say–my opinion is to leave it up to them). The key here is that this pregnancy is not an accident. She has two sons (one with ADHD) who she has a difficult time controlling. I was told a few months ago that she really wants a little girl.

J filed for divorce 2 years ago (several months before he met D) and was adament about not remarrying. However, he did purchase a promise ring for her a few weeks ago to assure her that he wasn’t going anywhere. A few months ago, he told his family that D really wanted to have a little girl, and the family urged him to think about it–and not do anything without marriage (or at least an engagement).

The first issue that is causing problems is J’s sister who is married and desperately trying to have children. She is undergoing treatments that have so far been unsuccessful and this has been a major focus in her life. J never hinted to her what his plans were, so it was a complete shock to her yesterday to learn over the phone that she was about to become an aunt. I think devasted is a very good word to describe her emotional state right now.

I have to keep reminding myself that ultimately this has little to do with my relationship with g00fy_blonde. After all, even though we have talked about getting married next year, we are not engaged. It shouldn’t matter if J and D get married first. The drive to work today helped me discover what was lying beneath my knee jerk response of anger and jealousy.

Most of it comes from my previous marriage. For those of you who don’t know, in 1996 I eloped in Las Vegas. This was a true elopment in that my close family did not even know that I was married for 3 years. Maybe you can imagine the pain that caused. I see his family going through the same emotions and brings up the feelings of guilt and hurt that I still carry from that time.

The other item is really rather silly now that I’ve realized the cause. When I was married, my sister-in-law and her husband had a baby. They were not stable enough financially or emotionally at this time, and it helped tear apart their marriage. Also, my in-laws purchased a crib and other things for the baby’s room and told everyone in the family that while their daughter had picked out the furnishings, these items were meant to be passed around as needed. They would not be buying another crib. So any child I might have had with my husband would have always have been considered second (or third or whatever).

Rational thought has reminded me that g00fy_blonde‘s family is not like that. Each child will be welcome, loved, and treated as the unique and special individual they are.

So what if J and D decide to get married and there are two weddings next year? I don’t even know if D would want a big family wedding–why do I assume that she does? Maybe they won’t get married, maybe they’ll just have a civil ceremony, or maybe they’ll pull out all the stops and have a big party. Maybe they’ll pick the month, I’ve always had set aside in my mind (even before my first marriage). Oh well, there are 11 other perfectly good months in a year.

I realize that I need to get over it. g00fy_blonde, the saint that he is at times like this, says that I have every right to my opinion and my feelings. He knows I’ll work through it and be happy for them eventually. He also knows that right now my main emotion is anger for how they’ve treated J’s sister–but that too will dissolve with time. He also knows that a part of my reaction is jealousy. I want to have children, but I want to be married first–and that has been getting delayed for a variety of reasons–not relationship problems, thankfully.

And I do feel bad for J and D. I’m sure that they’re excited and want everyone to be happy and supportive (and some people truly are, like the other triplet), but right now that’s not possible for many people. The announcement of a baby is supposed to be a happy time–and they don’t have that right now.

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By Request

More from the small town, where apparently, everyone is finding themselves with too much time on their hands. There were an amazingly high number of calls regarding public urination, which I left out, but wanted to mention because there was one call on that issue every week.

Caller from the 900 block of Highway 20 advised that he had some property stolen and now it was in his neighbor’s yard. A shovel was recovered from the yard and returned to the owner.

Caller from the 800 block of Highway 20 advised that a man had urinated on the tire of her car and she did not like it. Caller stated the man went west and was wearing a red coat and had long hair.

Caller from the 200 block of Morehead Street advised a man was in front of their shop yelling and yodling. Subject was told to stop yodling until Oktoberfest. (spelling is as appeared in paper)

Caller from Third Street advised of a possible drunk driver last seen around Super 8. It was an elderly couple and the officer found that everything was ok.

Caller from south of Chadron advised that his buddy and himself were so bored they decided to take a drive out by the cliffs and now his vehicle is stuck in the snow. The caller requested a tow truck.

Caller from the 1200 block of Highway 20 advised that there was a male subject that just came in to buy cigarettes. Caller stated he was old enough to buy but he went outside to two other male subjects. Caller stated that one of the other subjects appeared to be holding a six pack of beer and he appeared to not be old enough to buy alcohol. The officer contacted the subjects and they had IVBC root beer.

Caller from Memorial Hall advised they have a white envelope that has been ducted taped to the bottom portion of the railing out front of Memorial Hall. Caller requested CSC security to come check it out. It was a ‘hint’ for an upcoming scavenger hunt. It was unknown when the hunt will be and no one was available for info.

Caller from the 500 block of Chadron Avenue advised of a suspicious female dressed in all orange walking south. Caller advised he was busy and unable to leave his office and requested an officer to check and make sure the subject was not an escapee from somewhere.

Caller from Chapin Street advised that the girl he is trying to take home keeps taking the shifter and putting it into park. Caller advised that he didn’t know what to do, left it in park and is now in the middle of the street. There was a disagreement between the caller and his wife because she didn’t want him to drive home. (Imagine, a disagreement with his wife while he’s trying to take a girl home…..)

Caller to the 700 block of Third Street advised that a man had called there twice and whispered “Are you ticklish, can I tickle your feet?” Caller just wanted the police to be aware of it in case it continues. When the caller asked who the subject was, the subject said he was the tickler.

Caller advised that they are getting ready for the wet t-shirt contest and she noticed a little girl around the age of seven sitting at the bar. Caller stated she did not think the little girl should be there.

Caller to the Crawford Police Department requested officers to shoot their aerial poppers again tonight to get rid of turkey buzzards.

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For those who don’t know, I lived in a small Nebraska town in the middle of nowhere for about 9 months. One of the few entertainments I had was the Police Beat in the local paper. Here are some highlights.

2:50 p.m. Caller from the 100 block of Main Street advised there was a man laying in the alley and caller was afraid he was going to get run over. The subject was “just soaking up some rays,” was not passed out and not a hazard. (this call took place in January).

5:23 p.m. Caller from the intersection of Third and Main Streets advised that someone in a green SUV had thrown a goose in the middle of the above location. Several subjects were cited for littering.

9:33 a.m. Caller from the 1200 block of Highway 20 advised that she was in the car wash and hadn’t gotten out in time and the doors shut on her.

12:32 a.m. Caller from the 100 block of Bordeaux Street requested to speak with an officer. He was being extremely difficult to understand, so the disposition is unknown. The caller called 911 because he wanted the officer to go to Common Cents and buy him some cigarettes.

1:25 p.m. Caller from the 100 block of East First Street advised he needed a rescue unit because ìhis liver is hurting.î Dispatch requested an officer check him out first and advise. The subject was drinking a beer on the officerís arrival.

That’s all I have time for now. I will add more later.

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You’re It!

sweet_pickles got me.

1)Total number of books owned?
More than I have room for (1 large bookcase, 2 small bookcases, and 4 boxes–that’s after donating another 3 boxes to the library), and yet there are still books out there begging to be let into my home.

2) The last book I bought?
Unless by Carol Shields and The Sisters: The Saga of the Mitford Family by Mary S. Lovell (both for book clubs)

3) The last book I read?
I am currently reading Unless, I just finished The Tarnished Eye by Judith Guest

4) 5 books that mean a lot to me?
…And Ladies of the Club by Helen Hooven Santmeyer, A Natural History of the Senses by Diane Ackerman, Where the Red Fern Grows by Wilson Rawls, Nickel & Dimed by Barbara Ehrenreich, and anything by Jane Austen (if I had to choose one, Mansfield Park).

5) Tag 5 people and have them fill this out on their ljs:

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I had a very mixed weekend. Everything was great in the relationship department. He took me out to dinner on both Friday and Saturday and a movie on Saturday night (Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy).

However, there were no readings on Saturday. I did the MS Walk on Sunday. Just as we were finishing (walking up a large hill), it began to snow. WTF–It was May Day!!! We were complaining about the weather and it began to hail. Thankfully, we were just about done, but all of us were freezing.

We debated over lunch whether a hot bath or shower would be better. Everyone convinced me to take a bath. Apparently, I was so cold that I kept chilling the water around me. Parts of my body immerged in the water were still cold to the touch. Very weird. So I took a shower, which helped and finished off with two cups of hot tea.

Then it was time to work the Living Green expo in St. Paul. The building wasn’t heated, so all my hard work to get warm was pretty much wasted. However, they had an excellent turnout and we had many people stop by our booth.

I got home just in time to watch the Contender and Desperate Housewives. I finished off the evening by watching an episode of Miss Marple that I taped. I don’t know what I’d do without my VCR during sweeps!

Oh and I’ve managed to gain 3 pounds. Rather depressing really.

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