It’s Valentine’s Day again, and as usual my husband is giddy with excitement. It really is sweet how he makes a big deal out of this holiday. I don’t know why it’s such a big deal to him, but it is and I’m not about to complain about it. It’s actually the only holiday he plans out in advance and really thinks about. Christmas, birthdays–they’re all last minute things for him, but he puts some effort into Valentine’s Day.
First off, everything about Valentine’s Day is to be a surprise. Second, he usually takes half the day off–or minimally leaves two hours early. He will probably make dinner tonight. Yes, I know he makes dinner pretty much every night, but he tends to do something special for tonight. It might be a nice cut of steak or a new recipe. There’s always a romantic, fancy Hallmark card. I get a box of Godiva chocolates–and sometimes a small gift. (although he’s warned me that money is tight this year and chocolates/gift may not be on the list). Sometimes I get a single rose. I’ll give him whatever gift I found that particular year. The rest of the night is pretty much devoted to spending time together. Nothing particularly special just focused on relaxing together.
I’ve rescheduled two meetings that were supposed to take place tonight because I don’t want to disappoint him. Honestly, I don’t know what would happen if I ever had a conflict that I couldn’t resolve on Valentine’s Day. I also wonder what he did the years that he didn’t have a girlfriend/wife. He says he’s always been like this. It’s really very sweet. And before you ask, no–it’s not all about the sex.
I guess what makes this day special for me is his whole attitude towards it. To be honest, there have been some years when his efforts have been less than I expected (partially because of the huge build-up beforehand), and it was hard not to show that disappointment because it would really hurt him. Now, I look forward to his excitement–and hey, he’s doing it all for me. To have him this excited about doing something special for me is a huge thing.