Back when we were TTC, we started hearing all the pregnancy announcements within the family. Due dates ranged from November through mdi-February and I remember mentioning to my husband my worries with all these babies coming that ours would somehow be “forgotten” once we conceived. He didn’t completely laugh at me, but was reassuring.
It appears that some of my worry was justified. My mother is having a difficult time scheduling the baby shower for my side of the family. Back in February, I told her that my MIL and the Patchwork Princess were each going to throw a shower for me and the baby and that I while I had a pretty open calendar, I was going to accept dates as they were offered. I didn’t even mention this until both my sister and step-sister-in-law had their babies because I knew my mother was really focused on them–and rightfully so.
I tried to schedule a time to go baby shopping together, but because of weather and schedules, my mother couldn’t make it. In all honesty, in February she was focused on her new grandchildren and another step-sister’s wedding in Alaska. My sister contacted me in February to try to find out what my schedule looked like and to put a fire under Mom, but nothing came from it.
In April we have Easter on the first weekend. The next weekend has the baby showers thrown by my in-laws and Patchwork Princess. The following weekend is a granddaughter’s birthday and also the baptism for my nephew. And the weekend after that is my due date.
In May, we have the weekend after my due date (which is a littletoo close for comfort if I follow the trend and am overdue) and the baptism for the twins. The second weekend is Mother’s Day, and the third weekend is my anniversary. The last weekend is Memorial Day.
I’m okay with having it on our wedding anniversary–it’s not like we have a big to-do planned anyway (what with a new baby and all). She’s still checking everyone’s schedules and will get back to me.
The main issue is that one person (the step-sister-in-law) works on Saturdays and can’t participate unless we hold it on a Sunday. If May 20th doesn’t work out for some reason, I’m at the point where I will tell my mother to just skip it. This whole thing is really getting under my skin and I’m hurt–especially since I have put a lot of energy and money into the showers she’s thrown for other family members.
In other news, with the exception of not knowing who the in-laws invited to the shower, everything is going very smoothe on that side. I just may have to add a couple of last minute additions if everything falls through with my mother’s shower.