Overall, it’s been a good day. DH and I took turns working on things around the house and keeping Justin entertained. It worked out well.
On the downside, I got slammed pretty hard on an AP message board where I admitted that I let Justin cry for two hours once. One individual was completely insulted by this and pretty much made it clear to me and others who were trying to be supportive of the situation (I managed to get criticized yesterday for not allowing Justin to “cry it out”) that my behavior was very un-AP and should not be taken lightly. I calmly responded that the 2 hours was because I was vomiting every 15 minutes, but she still felt the need to offer her opinion and helpful suggestions. Suggestions I can take.
On the one hand, I’ve been averaging 4 hours of sleep all week due to Justin’s new sleep pattern, so I know I was tired, but this really, really hurt. In fact, I cried for a good half hour and tears have welled up throughout the day.
But as DH so helpfully reminded me, we get comments from people all the time about how happy Justin is and how his smile just lights up the room. Other teachers at his daycare make a point of visiting him during the day to see his smile. DH said that we can’t be screwing him up too bad.
I know that I’m not a terrible mom. And I know I’m not perfect either. However, it is pretty rough to take criticism one day, that I need to let Justin learn to self-soothe and cry it out, and then get blasted the very next day for admitting that he has had to cry it out.
For the record, crying it out doesn’t work for us.
Also, helpful AP expert’s suggestion of co-sleeping also does not work for us. Primarily because none of us sleep well. I get a sore back, DH can’t sleep and Justin wakes up every hour or two–which means I’m up every hour or two. Her response to that is that we need to purchase a bigger bed.
We will get this figured out (besides my drinking large amounts of wine and then nursing him afterwards). Okay, I’m kidding there. I don’t really do that. Please don’t blast me.